tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30786752.post2993192965434547371..comments2023-10-09T09:07:18.186-04:00Comments on My Ecdysis: The Monologue that Should be a DialogueLisahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16013142465038823597noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30786752.post-12975876149317286812008-03-12T02:01:00.000-04:002008-03-12T02:01:00.000-04:00Thanks for making this post, and asking this impor...Thanks for making this post, and asking this important question. I'm a male survivor of incest, and your post inspired me to write this- <A HREF="http://phoenixandtree.wordpress.com/2008/03/12/if-my-penis-could-speak/" REL="nofollow">if my penis could speak</A><BR/><BR/>I've found the Vagina Monologues to be an important space that allows me to get in touch with my own deep grief about the destruction wrought by sexual violence. I've also heard a lot of critiques of the Vagina Monologues, which I think are vital too. I agree with you about the centrality of the need to engage men in movements to end sexual violence.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30786752.post-45553712190835987232008-02-26T14:27:00.000-05:002008-02-26T14:27:00.000-05:00Very very deep. And I agree with all the comments ...Very very deep. And I agree with all the comments thus far too. <BR/><BR/>I know this has been said a million times, that people can't go in with the savior-mentality and idea that they from the outside have the solution. Solutions are going to look different in different communities and they need to come from a profound respect for and understanding of that community. And understanding a community means understanding all of its members and including all of them.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30786752.post-3870986552478366972008-02-25T00:44:00.000-05:002008-02-25T00:44:00.000-05:00hey Sudy,thank you for this post. Been thinking al...hey Sudy,<BR/>thank you for this post. Been thinking alot about this issue in terms of my own community, and the wider Muslim community...how we need to do the work within our own communities in terms of support, healing and anti-violence organizing/educating. The struggle is to do all that work while also challenging racist stereoypes that depict our cultures/peoples as being inherently violent. That's why I feel strongly about the importance of us, the people of our communities, the women AND the men, to do this work within our own communities. <BR/><BR/>I'm not opposed to solidarity work...but building solidarity requires a meaningful committment to anti-racism and continual dialoguing and self-reflecting....a committment that is often times very half-assed.<BR/><BR/>again, thanks for this post.pomegranate queenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09490471237371656127noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30786752.post-37007933113339815282008-02-24T21:09:00.000-05:002008-02-24T21:09:00.000-05:00YES YES THANK YOU YESi directed the vagina monolog...YES YES THANK YOU YES<BR/><BR/>i directed the vagina monologues my senior year in college, and the producers that year decided it was time to get men involved, but, to do so, had private all-male discussions led in fraternity houses that most women on campus NEVER felt safe in. <BR/><BR/>that, clearly, didn't work. and i've spent the last few years figuring out what about it went wrong with the seemingly good idea to include men in the discussion. and reading your post let me finally realize that (aside from where the men's functions took place), it never WAS a discussion.<BR/><BR/>and as i continue to mull over everything you wrote, i'm sure i'll come up with more. whew. thank you.Katiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09347627527421421710noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30786752.post-21200711762368648702008-02-22T11:47:00.000-05:002008-02-22T11:47:00.000-05:00Holy Moses, Sudy. Way to get me choked up first t...Holy Moses, Sudy. Way to get me choked up first thing in the morning!<BR/><BR/>I am linking to this. My private parts are not prepared to make a statement yet, but I can't even tell you how much your redirect to both include and question men does for my heart. I am so tired of pretending that we can make ourselves safe when we are not the ones making ourselves unsafe. Thank you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30786752.post-17973516413396750802008-02-21T14:11:00.000-05:002008-02-21T14:11:00.000-05:00A powerful beautiful thoughtful post, Sudy. You go...A powerful beautiful thoughtful post, Sudy. You got me pondering.Kaihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18029372828318292725noreply@blogger.com