tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30786752.post15311621518053956..comments2023-10-09T09:07:18.186-04:00Comments on My Ecdysis: A Comparative Free Write: The Wedding Industry vs. The Baby IndustryLisahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16013142465038823597noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30786752.post-35547623377009174212009-09-03T22:42:48.752-04:002009-09-03T22:42:48.752-04:00"How is it that more people are interested in..."How is it that more people are interested in what kind of crib I will need than how my writing schedule will alter?" Well, I find the latter much more interesting! <br /><br />As Melissa hinted at, it could be that the folks obsessed with the type of crib and who think wondering about balancing ones professional interests with motherhood is selfish are possibly projecting their own guilt at not doing enough (in their own opinion) of one aspect or the other.<br /><br />"Is it so unthinkable to posit that fear is the intuitive threshold to responsibility"<br /><br />No, IMO. I had fear every day of my pregnancy (part of the context was multiple miscarriage history) and for the few months after (premature baby, insomnia, and general fear of fucking up). Some of it was hormonal, some of it was first-baby jitters and post-partum anxiety, but I think a lot of it was working through how to do this in a way that felt right.Octogalorehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14052288318330285365noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30786752.post-59863710691524450762009-09-01T09:20:42.551-04:002009-09-01T09:20:42.551-04:00I'm 30 weeks pregnant and I totally understand...I'm 30 weeks pregnant and I totally understand. I've been asked about the theme for the baby's room (I'm suppose to have a theme?!?!) and what I've brought (almost nothing). But these are the same people who don't ask about how I'm doing, how I'm adjusting. <br /><br />I am lucky to have some great friends who do ask the important questions. These women are wonderful and don't sugar coat the truth. Babies are wonderful but they are also hard and scary. <br /><br />I worry about screwing up motherhood. If I mess this up it's another person I'm hurting, a vulnerable child. My mother died young, and I see my stepmother more often as an example of what I don't want to do - hence my fear. And to top it off, I still want a professional life and some people see that as very selfish - generally the same people who ask about the room's theme. <br /><br />Sorry for the rant - but you hit a nerve with me.Melissanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30786752.post-30545793202898136732009-08-28T19:56:23.529-04:002009-08-28T19:56:23.529-04:00yes! exactly how I feel now that I am six months i...yes! exactly how I feel now that I am six months into pregnancy. No one is asking how I will manage a full time job and breastfeeding but they want to know how I am "designing" the baby's room. It's v. frustrating.Faithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17381348008457855813noreply@blogger.com